there is an issue which i ponder over pretty often..a realisation dawn on me today. subconsciously, i pull away emotionally and mentally from friends who get attached and my mentality towards him or her immediately shift towards the "i better pull away before she drifts away" gear. i suppose tat on some level, i expect them to abandon me, so in order to self-protect, i shirk away first. however, the mentality re-enforce itself once the friend exhibits zhong se qing you traits.

perhaps not everyone will abandon their friends once they get attached. maybe its just me. but i suspect mostly, its not just me! its just that their other halfs seem much more important, however often they see each other. can you still blame me for pulling away? why stay when you know you're GOING TO get hurt?