relationships

do friendships last beyong coupledom?

this question can be taken in 2 different meanings.

first, do friends still exist after you found love?

for example, once you start dating, weekends are reserved for that special someone only and you no longer asks your friends out or join your friends.

second, friendship between a female and a male. is it truly possible?

will it be purely platonic or does one party always harbour a (whether subconscious or not) desire to develop further? then is it true that there is a little something about someone that disgusts you slightly, thus hindering the prospect of a relatioship?

possibly due to the limited scope of my informal survey, but it seems to me that importance of friendships tend to diminish on the appearance of the significant other. (of course that is not to say it applies to everyone, just a significant portion of the population). Take a look around you, is what i am saying right now a stretch of the truth? mak a rough comparison. what is the ratio of the number of weekends you meet a certain friend before and after he/she gets attached? ("attached" is a fitting word by the way.it applies figuratively and literally.)

further, ponder over this. part the fog of love clouding your mind and ask yourself. when you are/were attached, do you feel loved, but friendless? does meeting up with your friends seem like a reunion or a regular gathering?

it is entirely human and understandable to behave in such a way. it is inevitable tht lovers tend to be more important since it is likely that they'll walk with you for the rest of your life, while friends may or may not. but think back to the time when you were single, lonely and desperate; think back on the times you were hurt by your significant other, who is it that you run to?